In one of my earlier posts I had discussed choice and why I disliked it. I have learnt a lot since that last post and understand it a little better. I discuss some of my experiences and thoughts about the paradox of choice.
Interestingly, choice is always about, "Which option gives me more happiness"? All choices or confusions arise when we base our happiness on the result of choosing. We spend a lot of our lives in dealing with choice and evaluating the so called 'right choice'. Most of the time, by the time we have taken the choice, we are evaluating the benefits of the other choice. The question, "What If i had chosen the other path"? would continue to linger. And we are not really happy with our choice at the end of the day. Soon our mind jumps onto the next level seeking happiness and in this search, it is again confronted with choice. It is a never ending process.
What to do? How to decide what is right? A million dollar question.
There are 3 solutions based on the kind of person one is.
1) Faith in the supreme. Unconditional trust, knowing that "I am being taken care of". I have been caried through everything so far, I will be lead through the rest of the way too. This brings comfort and the anxiety of the future drops away. You start to be more in present moment, and slowly your action becomes perfect, because it is untainted by the past or the future. Right action is that which is apt for the moment, unconditioned by the past or future. So in this approach you are not bothered by choice.
2) Knowing that happiness can never be the result of anything. It is a feeling within you and resides in you. It is a state of mind. It is relative. Taking an approach that I am already content and satisfied knowing that I don't have to acquire more happiness. In this approach when you disassociate your interests from the choice, then the right choice is taken.
3) It is said, choose that which brings long term happiness to you and people around you but short term difficulty. In general what we do is seek out short term benifits thereby sacrificing long term benifits.
Either one of these approaches help you to avoid the confusion choice causes. It has helped me in several occasions, maybe it helps you too.